tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630925687152131430.post8345018118074921397..comments2023-05-21T02:14:19.445-07:00Comments on Eclectic Relaxation: Figuring out when to say...whenDustinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16459827372217872941noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630925687152131430.post-43822188011975344182008-10-07T17:03:00.000-07:002008-10-07T17:03:00.000-07:002 cents or so from another one of those feminist w...2 cents or so from another one of those feminist women: censoring your true self is one thing; censoring the "crazy shit you just feel like saying even though it doesn't really represent you or your true opinions at all" is another. I think we all want to be able to be truly ourselves with the ones we love, but I don't think it's necessary -- or even good, sometimes -- to expose people to those 'demons' that creep up sometimes and we know we don't believe or agree with what they're talkin. In this post you ask "1) What can one sacrifice to improve a relationship without sacrificing one's true essence?" Well, I think that we shouldn't have to sacrifice our "true essence"... but as you say yourself, if your true essence isn't the embodiment of some of the offensive remarks you make, then are you really sacrificing that? <BR/><BR/>As someone who often puts her foot in her mouth, I can relate a little. But... I also tend to put my foot in my mouth because I'm spouting something that I truly feel strongly about, not something that I toss out in jest or to stir people up (and I still happily and wholeheartedly apologize when my impassioned statements hurt or offend). Maybe that's a gender thing, maybe it's something else. Like I said, just my 2 cents (or 20).Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516243853192363352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630925687152131430.post-83283520207525559932008-10-03T12:18:00.000-07:002008-10-03T12:18:00.000-07:00http://www.nahright.com/news/http://2dopeboyz.com/...http://www.nahright.com/news/<BR/>http://2dopeboyz.com/<BR/>http://brandonsoderberg.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://differentkitchen.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://ohword.com/Joeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09620135691106123184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630925687152131430.post-27518042918582102452008-10-02T17:19:00.000-07:002008-10-02T17:19:00.000-07:00Yo man, every word in this post is the truth, manI...Yo man, every word in this post is the truth, man<BR/><BR/>I tend to spit out shit without even thinking a lot of times and people get offended<BR/><BR/>I'm kinda seeing this girl now and the same sort of issues keep coming up. But at the same time, it's like, the real me isn't the one spewing this shit. I think as important is it is for you to recognize that there are two separate personas, she has to recognize that shit too.<BR/><BR/>If it truly is that you have like, two personas, then its not like youre toning yourself down, ya dig?Jack McCoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14015744543797213030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630925687152131430.post-63789459356050567782008-10-02T13:48:00.000-07:002008-10-02T13:48:00.000-07:00I don't recall how I stumbled over here a few ...I don't recall how I stumbled over here a few weeks ago, but I'm glad as hell that I did. I relish each one of these drops.<BR/><BR/>I can't think of a single male friend who hasn't had to "check himself" by a measure or two when his better half was with him. It isn't so much a matter of "censoring" as it is a "toning down" of sorts. He knew that there were certain things that offended her or made her uncomfortable, so he respected that by refraining from vocalizing whatever obscene, racist, or flat-out asinine thought that came to mind. No one thought any less of him or said, "Wow, you're really not yourself when you're around her."<BR/><BR/>I don't know, I feel like as long as you're not on some Jekyll & Hyde shit, you won't be compromising to the point of artificialty.floodwatchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497497014337558382noreply@blogger.com